Saturday, May 17, 2008

Effects Of Alzheimer's On Families

They spoke of heartache and loss, of confusion and pain, of parents struck down by Alzheimer's disease.

Seven U.S. senators gave a rare glimpse into personal tragedies Wednesday at congressional hearings on the need for a national strategy to deal with this mind-robbing illness. Their openness was inspired in part by a witness who had come to testify: former Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O'Connor, whose husband, John, is in the advanced stages of Alzheimer's.

"He's not in very good shape at present," O'Connor acknowledged, while appealing for more support for families and more funding for research and clinical trials.

It was the first time the jurist has talked publicly about her husband since her sons revealed last year that he'd fallen in love with another resident of the nursing home where he was then living.


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Tuesday, May 6, 2008

Guilt

When we stop to consider what we could have done for our loved ones, we are often burdened with a sense of guilt.

There may be many things we wish we could do over.
There may have been kind words we wanted to say. Or kind deeds we wanted to do, but we always put them off.

There may have been amends we intended to make or things we wanted to set right but we never did and now its too late.

And so the feelings of guilt add to the sorrow and lost that we already feel.
Does God understands those feelings also? Of course He does
Where we have failed, God will forgive us if we ask, so ask.

After we have been forgiven we need to forgive ourselves and begin to live and love and speak as we wish we had done, make a difference now.

He Is With You

Perhaps you are wondering how serious this illness really is.
You may be fearing the worst, or you may already know the worst.
And that is making you afraid, afraid of today, afraid of tomorrow afraid of what will happen to you.

Afraid of what will happen to your loved ones if things don't get better.
Does God understands those fears? Does he really care when you are afraid?
Of course He does.

That's why He promises He will never leave you nor forsake you no matter how rough the way may be.
Tomorrow may be uncertain but the promises of God are not.
Do not let fear of the unknown rob you of of what you have today.

Friday, May 2, 2008

Taking Care Of You

Caring for an Alzheimer's patient is a demanding job but at the same time its temporary. Oftentimes you let go of your former life, work, friends, hobby and even other family members are neglected, but this is a mistake.

After your loved one has died you will find yourself all alone and finding it difficult to break out of some of the habits you have formed because by now you have become withdrawn and aloof and you wonder if you will ever get your old life back.

If you are going to have any semblance of live after your loved one has gone it is going to require balance in all areas.If you isolate yourself, neglect your own needs and other priorities and give all your attention and time to your loved one, things can get out of hand.

Take it from one who has been there, this is not being selfish, don't feel guilty about taking sometime for yourself because if you don't something will give at some point and you cannot afford to go into depression or get sick. A happy caregiver means a happy patient.You need the loving support of family and friends to get you through these times.

So ask for help, don't try to do everything by yourself because after a while you begin to see everything as your responsibility and you are the only one that can do it. When this happens you will become overloaded, and that leads to frustration and resentment.

Take a break